Internet Cheating: Is it still cheating?

Most households have access to the Internet and most individuals spend three to four hours a day (weekends included) online, and that's not during office hours. So it's not surprising that a lot of folks find their way to the approximately 40 million online sex sites.

Consequentially, a door has been opened granting access to online infidelity.

Woman showing her boobs over webcam

A study done in the Netherlands looked at the reactions of both college-aged students and the general population to online infidelity. Online infidelity means carrying on an illicit relationship or sexual activity (via webcams, etc.) on your computer or phone.

With the media coverage about the Anthony Weiner scandal, everyone is rushing to figure out whether or not his (or anyone else's) actions constitute cheating or not. Do couples handle it like regular infidelity? Are they less jealous? And who gets hurt?

The study found that men more often than women are more jealous and hurt by the physical action of an affair, while women are more jealous and hurt by an emotionally intimate relationship. It holds true regardless of whether the affair was off or online; so whether the affair is online or offline, it was still very upsetting.

Interestingly, the study chose to look at both college-aged individuals and individuals whose average age was 48. What this demonstrated was that younger women were more hurt by the emotional connection than the physical, while older women were more “masculine” in their responses.

This is possibly due to the fact that older, more experienced women are more confident, more assertive and more successful; therefore their responses are more akin to the male perspective.

Is an online affair cheating? This study makes it clear that to most, the answer is yes. Affairs have a devastating effect on most relationships in the way of loss of trust, a hurt ego, and sometimes a significant decrease in one's self-worth. While men and women may react to cheating differently, someone is bound to get hurt.

We're on shaky ground when it comes to Internet infidelity because it is all so new. The most important thing that you can do for your relationship is set boundaries and be honest with your partner. If you find yourself entering into dangerous territory, ask yourself: if I found out that my partner was engaging in similar activity, would I be upset? Be honest with your response; your gut is a pretty good gauge, so listen to it.

Cheating men more likely to die from heart attack during sex

By lifestyle.aol.co.uk
Men who cheat on their partners could be taking their lives in the hands, as a new study shows that they're more likely to die during sex than those that stay faithful.
The Daily Mail reports that US researchers found this out when looking at whether men with heart problems could safely resume their sex lives after treatment.

Man caught cheating

The study, published by the American Heart Association, found that patients could safely have sex as soon as one week after a mild heart attack, provided they could walk up a few flights of stairs without discomfort.
However, they pointed out that married men having illicit sex faced a higher risk of sudden death during sex, because they were often with younger women in unfamiliar surroundings, which increases stress.
Dying during sex is very rare - after analysing autopsy results of almost 6,000 cases of sudden death, scientists from Baylor College of Medicine in Houston found that just 0.6 per cent of cases happened during sex.
However, the scientists found that up to 93 per cent of people who died in this way were thought to be engaging in extra-marital sex.
Professor Glenn Levine, who led the study, said that these results shouldn't be blown out of context and said, "Sexual activity is the cause of less than one per cent of all heart attacks."
Nevertheless, he said that all doctors should talk to heart patients about sex about how and when to resume their sex lives.
And it sounds as if men should think twice if they're tempted to stray...

11 mistakes women make in middle age

Source: health.com

Aging mistakes

Let's not kid ourselves. Getting older is a drag, and middle age is particularly fraught with tension.
Do the sexy clothes you wore in the past now seem just plain wrong? Will smoky eye makeup that looks great on 19-year-olds make you appear just plain crazy?
Part of the problem is that aging often requires change, but most women don't want to move to a frumpy town called Middle Age, where sensible shoes and boring clothes are de rigueur.
Here are the 11 most common mistakes aging women make—and how to avoid them.

Why that Tusker bottle is a sure way to death.

National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism

Beyond Hangovers

A brightly colored cosmopolitan is the drink of choice for the glamorous characters in Sex and the City. James Bond depends on his famous martini—shaken, not stirred—to unwind with after confounding a villain. And what wedding concludes without a champagne toast?

Alcohol is part of our culture—it helps us celebrate and socialize, and it enhances our religious ceremonies. But drinking too much—on a single occasion or over time—can have serious consequences for our health. 

Oily skin Beauty

A shiny face is the result of an increase in sebum, which is an oil that keeps your skin from drying out.

This onslaught of oil generally occurs when your body suffers a significant shift in hormones, such as puberty.

While oily skin is natural, too much oil can make your face look greasy. Excess oil also contributes to the occurrence of acne. Use beauty tips that reduce or prevent oily skin.

What behavior is considered cheating if you are married?

Though the term "cheating" may mean different things to different people, it usually involves a betrayal of trust. If you're wondering what behavior is considered cheating when you're married, follow your conscience and know your partner's boundaries. "We all have male friends and female friends, but there is a certain line that is drawn about what is appropriate and any reasonably intelligent person knows when it's crossed," says marriage and relationship counselor David Wheeler.

AIDS Orphans

AIDS orphans are children who became orphans because one or both parents died from AIDS.

In statistics from the Joint United Nations Programme on HIV/AIDS (UNAIDS), the World Health Organization (WHO) and the United Nations Children's Fund (UNICEF), the term is used for a child whose mother has died due to AIDS before the child's 15th birthday, regardless of whether the father is still alive. As a result of this definition, one study estimated that 80% of all orphans still have one living parent.

Origin of AIDS

Origin of AIDS can be tracked when it was first reported June 5, 1981, when the U.S. Centers for Disease Control (CDC) recorded a cluster of Pneumocystis carinii pneumonia (now still classified as PCP but known to be caused by Pneumocystis jirovecii) in five homosexual men in Los Angeles. In the beginning, the CDC did not have an official name for the disease, often referring to it by way of the diseases that were associated with it, for example, lymphadenopathy, the disease after which the discoverers of HIV originally named the virus.They also used Kaposi's Sarcoma and Opportunistic Infections, the name by which a task force had been set up in 1981.

In the general press, the term GRID, which stood for Gay-related immune deficiency, had been coined. The CDC, in search of a name, and looking at the infected communities coined “the 4H disease,” as it seemed to single out Haitians, homosexuals, hemophiliacs, and heroin users. However, after determining that AIDS was not isolated to the homosexual community, the term GRID became misleading and AIDS was introduced at a meeting in July 1982.By September 1982 the CDC started using the name AIDS, and properly defined the illness.

Origin of AIDS traced back

The earliest known positive identification of the HIV-1 virus comes from the Congo in 1959 and 1960 though genetic studies indicate that it passed into the human population from chimpanzees around fifty years earlier.A recent study states that a strain of HIV-1 probably moved from Africa to Haiti and then entered the United States around 1969.

The HIV virus descends from the related simian immunodeficiency virus (SIV), which infects apes and monkeys in Africa. There is evidence that humans who participate in bushmeat activities, either as hunters or as bushmeat vendors, commonly acquire SIV. However, only a few of these infections were able to cause epidemics in humans, and all did so in the late 19th—early 20th century. To explain why HIV became epidemic only by that time, there are several theories, each invoking specific driving factors that may have promoted SIV adaptation to humans, or initial spread: social changes following colonialism, rapid transmission of SIV through unsafe or unsterile injections (that is, injections in which the needle is reused without being sterilised), colonial abuses and unsafe smallpox vaccinations or injections, or prostitution and the concomitant high frequency of genital ulcer diseases (such as syphilis) in nascent colonial cities.

Origin of AIDS in America.

One of the first high profile victims of AIDS was the American actor Rock Hudson, a known homosexual who had been married and divorced earlier in life, who died on 2 October 1985 having announced that he was suffering from the virus on 25 July that year. It had been diagnosed during 1984. A notable British casualty of AIDS that year was Nicholas Eden, a Member of Parliament and son of the late prime minister Anthony Eden. Eden junior, a lifelong batchelor, was also a known homosexual. The virus claimed perhaps its most famous victim yet on 24 November 1991, when British rock star Freddie Mercury, lead singer of the band Queen, died from an AIDS related illness having only announced that he was suffering from the illness the previous day; however he had been diagnosed as HIV positive during 1987.

One of the first high profile heterosexual victims of the virus was Arthur Ashe, the American tennis player. He was diagnosed as HIV positive on 31 August 1988, having contracted the virus from blood transfusions during heart surgery earlier in the 1980s. Further tests within 24 hours of the initial diagnosis revealed that Ashe had AIDS, but he did not tell the public about his diagnosis until April 1992. He died, aged 49, as a result of the AIDS virus on 6 February 1993.

A more controversial theory known as the OPV AIDS hypothesis suggests that the origin of AIDS was inadvertently started in the late 1950s in the Belgian Congo by Hilary Koprowski's research into a poliomyelitis vaccine. According to scientific consensus, this scenario is not supported by the available evidence.

Origin of AIDS source: wikipedia

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AIDS Impact in Africa

Since the beginning of the epidemic, AIDs impact has been profound as more than 15 million Africans have died from AIDS. Nearly two-thirds of all people living with HIV are found in sub-Saharan Africa, although this region contains only about 10% of the world's population.

The AIDS impact on the Health Sector

Condom Use in Preventing AIDs

Condom use in HIV/AIDs prevention is a critical element in a comprehensive, effective and sustainable approach to HIV prevention and treatment. Prevention is the mainstay of the response to AIDS. Condoms are an integral and essential part of comprehensive prevention and care programmes, and their promotion must be accelerated. In 2009, an estimated 2.7 million people became newly infected with HIV. About 45% of them were young people from 15 to 24 years old, with young girls at greater risk of infection than boys.

Genital Warts Prevention

Genital warts prevention is possible when you understand how they are spread in the first place. HPV is passed on through genital contact, most often during vaginal and anal sex. HPV may also be passed on during oral sex and genital-to-genital contact. HPV can be passed on between straight and same-sex partners—even when the infected partner has no signs or symptoms.

Genital warts treatment

Genital warts treatment must be by a doctor. Do NOT use over-the-counter remedies meant for other kinds of warts.

Your doctor may treat genital warts by applying a skin treatment in the office. Or, the doctor may prescribe a medication that you apply at home several times per week. These treatments include:

Genital Warts Symptoms, signs and test

Genital warts symptoms can sometimes be mistaken with other infections but the warts can be raised or flat, and are usually flesh-colored. They may appear as cauliflower-like growths. Sometimes they are so small and flat that they cannot be seen with the naked eye.

Common places to find genital warts:

• Females most often have warts inside or around the vagina or anus, on the skin around these areas, or on the cervix.
• Males most often have warts on the penis, scrotum, groin area, or thighs, as well as inside or around the anus in those who have anal intercourse.
• Both males and females may have warts on the lips, mouth, tongue, palate, or throat (larynx)

Other genital warts symptoms are rare, but may include:

• Increased dampness or moisture in the area of the growths
• Increased vaginal discharge
• Itching of the penis, scrotum, anal area, or vulva
• Vaginal bleeding, with or after sexual intercourse

Signs and tests

Flesh-colored to white, flat or raised, single or clustered warts may be seen anywhere on the genitals.

In women, a pelvic examination may reveal growths on the vaginal walls or cervix. Magnification (colposcopy) may be used to see lesions that are invisible to the naked eye. The tissue of the vagina and cervix may be treated with acetic acid (dilute vinegar) to make the warts visible.

A Pap smear may note changes caused by HPV. Women with these types of changes often need more frequent Pap smears for a period of time.

An HPV DNA test can identify whether you have a high-risk type of HPV that is known to cause cervical cancer. This test may be done:

Beautiful African Headscaf

Headscarves or head scarves are scarves covering most or all of the top of a woman's hair and her head. Headscarves may be worn for a variety of purposes, such as for warmth, for sanitation, for fashion or social distinction; with religious significance, to hide baldness, out of modesty, or other forms of social convention.

Headscarves may have specific religious significance.

How to be a people magnet

It's OK to admit it - we all want to be liked. Leil Lowndes, author of How To Be A People Magnet, shares her failsafe tips

First date Do's and Don'ts

First dates are a necessary evil in the lives of singles. They combine the pressure of job interviews with the artificiality of plastic flowers. You're willing to do practically anything to make a good impression; all the while you're observing each move your date makes with the suspicious air of a judge looking down his/her nose at a defendant.

The working lady's guide to being confident

Not all women are alike, but some of us aren't the best at asserting ourselves at work. We don't say no, we don't ask for raises and we smile, even if we're cracking a little inside. Learn to get what you need -- and deserve -- from your job.

JoAnn Corley, speaker, career and management coach, and co-author of Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Success and Wisdom at Work, helps explain why and gives the working girl tips to help make her career more successful.

Why we're not so great at asserting ourselves at work

The fact is, many women are less likely than men to assert themselves at work. Corley explains that there are two reasons for this.

Birth Defects: Answers to your 13 most-asked questions

1. What is a birth defect?
A birth defect is a problem that happens while the baby is developing in the mother's body. Most birth defects happen during the first three months of pregnancy.

A birth defect may affect how the body looks, works or both. It can be found before birth, at birth or anytime after birth. Most defects are found within the first year of life. Some birth defects (such as cleft lip or clubfoot) are easy to see, but others (such as heart defects or hearing loss) are found using special tests (such as X-rays, CAT scans or hearing tests). Birth defects can vary from mild to severe.

How to get your man to appreciate you

When we've been in a relationship for some time it's easy to start taking each other for granted. This happens often with couples and sometimes it's the woman who just doesn't feel that her man values her enough. If you are beginning to feel this way you know it's not good. You can grow to resent your man which just leads to even more relationship problems. There are things you can do to make your man appreciate you more than he does now.

5 New Office Rules No One's Told You Yet

Talk about a comeback. Mika Brzezinski was fired from her job as an anchor at CBS without warning...But it was only a matter of time before she was back on top — kicking major network butt on MSNBC's Morning Joe. In her new book, Knowing Your Value: Women, Money and Getting What You're Worth, Brzezinski shared with Cosmo the tips she used to climb back up the ladder — and how to use them to score yourself a raise.

1. Don't be afraid to piss people off.
When your boss asks you about the lateness of a project in a meeting, you call out your co-worker for missing a major deadline on it. Awkward, yes, but don't even think about apologizing to her post-meeting. If she wants to hold a grudge against you, let her — the fact is, she wasn't doing her job, and you called a spade a spade. "I've had meetings with people where I've repeated in my head, 'it doesn't matter if she likes me,' and I've found that allows me to be exact, honest, and to give thought-out, unemotional answers," says Brzezinski. "It doesn't matter if your co-workers like you. If you are being productive and you're being valuable, your work adds to the equation of the company. You will stay there and you will thrive," she says.