Cheating men more likely to die from heart attack during sex

By lifestyle.aol.co.uk
Men who cheat on their partners could be taking their lives in the hands, as a new study shows that they're more likely to die during sex than those that stay faithful.
The Daily Mail reports that US researchers found this out when looking at whether men with heart problems could safely resume their sex lives after treatment.

Man caught cheating

The study, published by the American Heart Association, found that patients could safely have sex as soon as one week after a mild heart attack, provided they could walk up a few flights of stairs without discomfort.
However, they pointed out that married men having illicit sex faced a higher risk of sudden death during sex, because they were often with younger women in unfamiliar surroundings, which increases stress.
Dying during sex is very rare - after analysing autopsy results of almost 6,000 cases of sudden death, scientists from Baylor College of Medicine in Houston found that just 0.6 per cent of cases happened during sex.
However, the scientists found that up to 93 per cent of people who died in this way were thought to be engaging in extra-marital sex.
Professor Glenn Levine, who led the study, said that these results shouldn't be blown out of context and said, "Sexual activity is the cause of less than one per cent of all heart attacks."
Nevertheless, he said that all doctors should talk to heart patients about sex about how and when to resume their sex lives.
And it sounds as if men should think twice if they're tempted to stray...

6 surprising libido boosters

By health.com

Astonishing aphrodisiacs
You've heard (and tried) it all before: down a dozen oysters, watch a marathon of sultry movies, get a couples massage. Even if these usual turn-ons work for you, sooner or later they start to feel tired—which may make you less likely to respond to them, says Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of sexual medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego.

Luckily, science has discovered a few more offbeat things that crank up your desire. Try one out tonight!

Understanding females' sexual fluidity

Source: CNN 

Actress Cynthia Nixon made headlines recently when she said during an interview that she “chooses” to be a lesbian.

“I've been straight and I've been gay, and gay is better,” she said. “For me, it is a choice.”

As you might expect, her comments – published in a New York Times Magazine profile - set off a firestorm of controversy, with gay activists and others worrying that Nixon's words would give credence to those who claim that being gay is a conscious decision, not a genetic certainty.

(She later clarified that she identifies most closely as a bisexual, which, she says, is a “fact,” not a choice.)

Ladies, Here is why you not married

You want to get married. It's taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud -- even in your mind -- feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you're hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor.

You've never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box.

Then, something happened. Another birthday, maybe. A breakup. Your brother's wedding. His wife-elect asked you to be a bridesmaid, and suddenly there you were, wondering how in hell you came to be 36-years-old, walking down the aisle wearing something halfway decent from J. Crew that you could totally repurpose with a cute pair of boots and a jean jacket. You started to hate the bride -- she was so effing happy -- and for the first time ever you began to have feelings about the fact that you're not married. You never really cared that much before. But suddenly (it was so sudden) you found yourself wondering... Deep, deep breath... Why you're not married.

Why You're Not Married

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You want to get married. It's taken a while to admit it. Saying it out loud -- even in your mind -- feels kind of desperate, kind of unfeminist, kind of definitely not you, or at least not any you that you recognize. Because you're hardly like those girls on TLC saying yes to the dress and you would never compete for a man like those poor actress-wannabes on The Bachelor.

You've never dreamt of an aqua-blue ring box.

Then, something happened. Another birthday, maybe. A breakup. Your brother's wedding. His wife-elect asked you to be a bridesmaid, and suddenly there you were, wondering how in hell you came to be 36-years-old, walking down the aisle wearing something halfway decent from J. Crew that you could totally repurpose with a cute pair of boots and a jean jacket. You started to hate the bride -- she was so effing happy -- and for the first time ever you began to have feelings about the fact that you're not married. You never really cared that much before. But suddenly (it was so sudden) you found yourself wondering... Deep, deep breath... Why you're not married. 

Sex after divorce: Does it get better?

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“If I hadn't gotten divorced, I never would have had the top five sexual experiences of my life,” gushed Tom, a friend of a friend at a recent holiday party.

What a turnaround! In 2010, at the same party, Tom* had been in the midst of splitting up with his wife of 12 years and I was offering him the names of marriage counselors. Now he was bankrupt and only saw his kids every other week, but he was exuberant about the change to his sex life.

“I'd given up on sex and fooled myself into thinking that I wasn't even a particularly sexual person,” he explained. “I didn't want to be the sort of guy who cheated, so I resigned myself to lackluster sex every other week... if I was lucky. We were so young and inexperienced when we got married. Now, for the first time in my life, I feel like I'm approaching sex as a confident adult.”

Dating and the challenge of too many choices

Source: cnn

If online dating hasn't led you to your perfect match, perhaps the issue isn't that you're too choosy, but rather that there's too much choice.

There's no doubt that dating in the 21st century offers a lot of opportunities. Think about your parents' generation: They grew up with no Internet, they likely stayed in the same town for most of their lives, and they automatically had more in common with the people in that town as a result. Today, women and men are increasingly marrying someone outside of their religion, their ethnicity and their geographic area.

How many times a day do you think about sex?

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Gentlemen, lest you were alarmed you might be abnormal for not thinking about sex once every 7 seconds (more than 8,000 times a day), a new study in the Journal of Sex Research arrives to reassure you.

Men, on average, think about sex far less than that much-hyped interval. (Where that 7-second stat originated is anybody's guess - it's been bandied about for decades and was probably a misquote of the original Alfred Kinsey study on male sexual behavior published in 1948.)

Men reveal their top kissing tips

Source: ivillage.com

1. Explore her body
When you're ready to really turn up the heat, kiss her on her neck and move your lips slowly up to her earlobes and give a light nibble. Don't be surprised when she starts breathing heavily.  

2. Spice it up
Once initial contact has been made, spice it up a bit with some variety. Move from short, soft kisses into longer, deeper ones, then back again... and don't use your tongue any more than she does. Change the angle by moving your head to the other side, and alternate between sucking on her lower and upper lip. Be sure to stop to breathe after every few kisses. These little moves will let her know that you know exactly what you're doing.

Is he still into his ex?

Source: webmd.com

Wondering if your honey's heart remains in the hands of a past love? Holding on to previous romantic attachments can create feelings of distrust and stymie an otherwise promising relationship.

Although there's no way to know for sure without discussing your concerns openly and honestly with your main squeeze, WebMD asked the experts for the top 10 clues that should at least set off your relationship radar.

1. Talking about the ex too much
Sure, we all compare our current romance to ones we've had in the past, and an occasional reference to an old steady is no cause for alarm. “But if it's happening 24-seven, it's a problem. It's going to keep both of you from enjoying the new relationship,” says couples counselor Joan Sherman, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT).

Romance in a busy marriage

Source: familylife.com

I always dreamed of having a family. It was one of my hopes for the future when Dennis and I were engaged and newly married. And of course, my dreams were only about good, peaceful, happy times with children who loved and obeyed their parents. I was unprepared for the perpetual demands parenting would require of me. From 2 a.m. feedings, potty training, ear infections, nightmares, and coloring on the walls to braces, birthday parties, and driving lessons for teens, mothering is a full-time, 24/7 job with few vacations and a delayed payment plan.

The problem mothers face is that, after a long day at this 24/7 job, we often feel stressed, exhausted, and simply not in the mood for romance. With so many modern conveniences that are supposed to save us time and make life more comfortable, how can we be so busy, so stressed, so fractured?

Ten questions every husband should ask his wife annually

Every year, Tom and Jeannie Elliff get away for a private retreat. Once, while sharing a meal in an intimate restaurant, Tom asked Jeannie the following questions — he wanted to listen to his wife's words and hear from her heart.

These ten questions have become an annual exercise as Tom seeks to follow the apostle Peter's exhortation: You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman, and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. -- 1 Peter 3:7 (NASB)

1. What could I do to make you feel more loved?

2. What could I do to make you feel more respected?

3. What could I do to make you feel more understood?

4. What could I do to make you more secure?
5. What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction?

6. What attribute would you like me to develop?
7. What attribute would you like me to help you develop?

8. What achievement in my life would bring you greatest joy?

9. What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more Christ like?

10. What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?

Optional - Have I overlooked any question you would like for me to ask?

Why is the female orgasm so elusive?

Nearly every week I receive an email from at least one woman asking me what she needs to do to have an orgasm during intercourse, or worrying that something may be wrong with her because she can't. Yet I rarely, if ever, receive the same question from men.

The simple fact is that the male orgasm typically comes easily during sex and female orgasms do not. The late Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey, famous for interviewing thousands about their sex lives, declared that 75% of men ejaculate within two minutes of penetration in over half of their sexual encounters.

Going with the flow for great sex

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When you hear the words 'heart' and 'sex life' in the same sentence, odds are the speaker is probably talking about love. But your heart - or, more accurately, your cardiovascular system - actually has a lot to do with your ability to perform in the bedroom.

This concept was brought home to me recently when I caught up with my colleague, Dr. Madeleine Castellanos, author of a recent book dealing with male sexual issues. She reminded me that there's no way we can talk about sexual issues like erectile dysfunction (ED) or other arousal disorders without talking about cardiovascular health.

11 mistakes women make in middle age

Source: health.com

Aging mistakes

Let's not kid ourselves. Getting older is a drag, and middle age is particularly fraught with tension.
Do the sexy clothes you wore in the past now seem just plain wrong? Will smoky eye makeup that looks great on 19-year-olds make you appear just plain crazy?
Part of the problem is that aging often requires change, but most women don't want to move to a frumpy town called Middle Age, where sensible shoes and boring clothes are de rigueur.
Here are the 11 most common mistakes aging women make—and how to avoid them.

Six mistakes men make in marriage

Men, we don't mean to nag, but you may be making mistakes that risk ruining your marriage. In fact, if you are a typical man, you are likely making several, and making them often.

Don't believe us? Ask your wife. Now, before you get all defensive, this isn't about blame. These aren't ridiculous relationship mistakes -- they're the subtle things that you might not even know you're doing. And changing these habits could make a big difference to your wife -- and that can only be good for you.

Recognizing these mistakes and making efforts to correct them will not only help your marriage, it may also help your health -- and that of your spouse.

Charity sex vs. Pity sex

Source: goodinbed.com

Is pushing yourself when you're not in the mood an investment in your relationship?

You may be bristling at the phrase "charity sex." If you're a woman, perhaps it brings to mind past, award-worthy, faked orgasms. Or maybe it reminds you of that time you bit your tongue and had sex because you were sick of hearing him ask for it. If you're a guy, you might be thinking, "better than nothing."

Or possibly, just possibly, you assume I'm referring to guilt-induced sex...... the sort you engage in because you feel bad for not throwing your partner a bone lately... the sort you suffer through, only to feel resentment later on.

Men confess: 22 reasons why younger guys fall for older women

In Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance, authors Felicia Brings and Susan Winter interviewed more than 200 men to discover the allure of the so-called "Mrs. Robinson syndrome." You'll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women.

"I'd do it again? definitely, no question. Oh yeah, and once you've done it, you definitely look at older women in another way." --Nick, 33

We've made our position known and shared the thoughts and experiences of the women to whom we talked. Now it's time to let the men speak for themselves. One important question we asked was what they felt an older woman has to offer. Here are some answers which are clear, articulate and to the point. Their sentiments represent a very large proportion of the opinions we heard expressed.

Say yes to better sex

Everyone's sex life has its ups and downs. Even when things are good most of the time, every couple can use a boost in the bedroom now and again.

With that in mind, we put together three simple but sexy ways to keep things interesting between the sheets. Read on for three frisky tips for enhancing your sex life tonight.

Surprise him with sex

This tried and true method will not only get him revved up in no time (likely instantaneously), but it's also an opportunity for you to take on a more dominant role if your guy is usually the one who initiates sex.

Is pregnancy putting your sex life on pause?

If you and your partner are expecting, congratulations! All that conception sex I have been talking about has finally paid off. And after months - or more - of timing your sexual rendezvous to an ovulation schedule, it may seem like there's no better time to take a timeout in the bedroom.

After all, you'll likely be preoccupied with all sorts of pre-baby activities, from registering for strollers, to choosing a name, to painting the nursery. Factor in the physical and emotional changes of pregnancy, and sex may be the last thing on both of your minds.

But you don't need to put your sex life on hold for the next nine months. In fact, conception and pregnancy can increase your sexual intimacy with your partner, and you may never feel closer.